In spite of how far we’ve come as a society, I find that our perspective of sensitivity (especially in men) is still rather negating ~ as something to be feared, as a liability, or a weakness to be ‘toughened’ up, overcome, or medicated away.
I know of many creative humans who struggle with the stigma of being ‘too sensitive’, whether they identify with being a Highly Sensitive Person, an Empath, an Intuitive, or a Sensory Defensive. Such people tend to isolate themselves from the world in an act of self-protection, become overwhelmed or damaged by trying to suppress their natural tendencies, or try to force themselves to be and act contrary to their nature in order to fit in to societal norms.
But our sensitivity is a strength, and once understood and mastered, our unique abilities are tools to help us see and process the deep and subtle energies of life ~ ideally, they make us more embodied, more present, and more capable of connecting to ourselves and others.
by Katarzyna Vedah. April 1, 2018
In some cultures, such extra-sensory people are respected as the shaman-healer-artists who use their sensitivity to address the energetic health needs of others, serving a psycho-spiritual function in their community.
But sensitivity can come at a price. Like the Wounded Healer, many of our gifts can come out of deep pain, abuse, and trauma, setting us on a journey into the darkness so as to return to the world with gained wisdom and light to share with others. Learning to hear our intuition or inner voice, for example, can come from repeated exposure to life-threatening experiences. In this way, intuition is not a sixth sense – it’s the first. It’s what we are inherently born with ~ our built-in survival mechanism, our gut-instinct. And each of us is naturally sensitive in our own way.
However, over time, most of us are conditioned out of our intuitive sense. We may then be taught to follow others’ voices, commands, and viewpoints over our own inner knowing.
We may even be rewarded to go against our own perceptions so as to not conflict with or inconvenience others, and we may be punished for speaking our truth if it doesn’t match societal norms or interests.
In order to live in the world with sensitivity, we need to take stock of what we’ve been exposed to, and what we continue to allow into our lives. As we take responsibility for our regular psychic hygiene, we become more aware of what we allow to affect us, be it via our environment, associations, energy/information, as well as our own habitual thoughts, feeling-states and self-talk.
Practical Intuition – Laura Day (Cyacyl)
BOOK: Practical Intuition. By Laura Day
Sensitive (Will Harper)
The Empathy Gap (Thomas Keith)
FILM (YouTube): Trailer
Sensitivity Training (Melissa Finell)
Warm Bodies (Jonathan Levine)
The Fountain (Darren Aronofsky)
ART / VIDEO (YouTube):
WORD: RABINDRANATH TAGORE
Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers
but to be fearless in facing them.
Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain
but for the heart to conquer it.
Let me not look for allies in life's battlefield
but to my own strength.
Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved
but hope for the patience to win my freedom.
Grant that I may not be a coward,
feeling Your mercy in my success alone;
But let me find the grasp of Your hand in my failure.
- Rabindranath Tagore - Bengali poet - 1916
VIDEO (YouTube): Kati Morton
BOOK: By Sharon Heller
Highly Sensitive Person (Kati Morton)
Problems HSPs Understand (Psych2Go)
Life as a HSP (Sheer Lev)
HSP Trauma (Candace van Dell)
Highly Sensitive Person - A. Freund (Google)
VIDEOS (YouTube): Shari Dyer
VIDEOS (YouTube): Candace van Dell
ARTICLE: Psychology Today
By Tom Falkenstein
WEB / ARTICLE / BOOK:
The Highly Sensitive Person. By Elaine N. Aron
The Strong, Sensitive Boy. By Dr. Ted Zeff
The Highly Sensitive Man. By Tom Falkenstein