It's my view that we all need love, connection and belonging. And most of us (in order to survive in a maladapted world) have disowned, lost, or been forced to let go of parts of ourselves in order to gain conditional approval from the social sphere (family, peers, public), unconsciously betraying ourselves.

As children, being caught in the inherited cycle of such seeking wasn't our fault. But over time, being out of self-alignment can cause our sense of the world to get smaller, tighter, drier, where we’re more likely to perpetuate the very thing we need to release.

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Competing for power and control as we frantically try to alter our outer circumstances (or giving up our power completely to allow others to lead our lives for us) can cause us to relive our pain through different settings, players and costumes.