On my life’s journey so far, I’ve come to believe that as human beings, we are a process, not fixed entities, and that our sense of identity changes based on our experiences, viewpoints, and perceived (or inherited) wants and needs.

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But what if we achieve a socially validated place in life that meets our  set goals and desires and yet we feel more empty than ever… where approval from others seems hollow and we ourselves feel devoid of meaning? That is, if we stop distracting ourselves enough to actually feel ~

If we take the path of denial of our inner reality, our outer one may become increasingly filled with conflict, pain, and mishaps until we can no longer ignore the Call from within ~ the call for self-connection.

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It's my view that we all need love, connection and belonging. And most of us (in order to survive in a maladapted world) have disowned, lost, or been forced to let go of parts of ourselves in order to gain conditional approval from the social sphere (family, peers, public), unconsciously betraying ourselves.

As children, being caught in the inherited cycle of such seeking wasn't our fault. But over time, being out of self-alignment can cause our sense of the world to get smaller, tighter, drier, where we’re more likely to perpetuate the very thing we need to release.

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Competing for power and control as we frantically try to alter our outer circumstances (or giving up our power completely to allow others to lead our lives for us) can cause us to relive our pain through different settings, players and costumes.

I propose that in order to change our lives and recover our lost parts, we try turning in and healing the connection with ourselves as the first step toward the love and belonging we seek.

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VIDEO (YouTube):

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Curt Cobain on Identity (Blank on Blank)

Against Personal Identity (Crash Course)

If You’re an Introvert (Jay Shetty)

Introverts and Extroverts (Teal Swan)

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The Power of Introverts – S. Cain (TED)

Psychology of Your Future Self (TED)

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DOCUMENTARY (YouTube) – Trailer

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Three Identical Strangers (Tim Wardle)

Far From The Tree (Dretzin & Ephron)

WELCOME TO YOUR IDENTITY CRISIS

FILM (YouTube): Trailer

Labyrinth

Locke

Captain Fantastic

TV SERIES (YouTube): Netflix

Living with Yourself

Unorthodox

MUSIC / VIDEO (YouTube):

Halfway to Nowhere - Chelou

Wide Awake – Katy Perry

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MUSIC / INTERVIEW (YouTube):

Tegan & Sara, Coming Out (q on CBC)

VIDEO (Vimeo): KIN FABLES Trilogy
Part I - Kin
Part II - Salvage
Part III - Requiem

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WEBSITE: Kin Fables

MUSIC / SOUND (Bandcamp):

Kin Fables Album - CLANN​

HUMOUR / VIDEO (YouTube): Frank James

16 Personalities Describing Themselves

Struggles Only Introverts Understand

Enneagram Types as New Dads

HOW SOCIALIZATION AFFECTS

PERSONALITY 

VIDEO (YouTube):

Measuring Personality (Crash Course)

Myers-Briggs Explained (Frank James)

Don’t Let Your Children… (Frank James)

WEBSITE: 16 Personalities

BOOK: Personality Isn’t Permanent

By Benjamin Hardy.

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VIDEO (YouTube):

How to Know Yourself (School of Life)

True & False Self (School of Life)

False Self vs Real Self (Teal Swan)

Your Personality is Fake (Teal Swan)

VIDEO (YouTube): Crash Course

Social Development

Socialization

Personality Disorders

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VIDEO (YouTube): TED-Ed

Psychology of Narcissism

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VIDEO (YouTube):

The Childhood Origins of Narcissism

(Vital Mind Psychology)


Misunderstood Personality Disorders

(MedCircle)

CARE FOR YOUR ENNEAGRAM TYPE

VIDEO (YouTube): Abbey Howe

What is the Enneagram?

Enneagram Coping Style

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VIDEO (YouTube): Frank James

Intro to the Enneagram

WINGS in the Enneagram

VIDEO (YouTube): Ian Morgan Cron

The Enneagram: Instincts

The Enneagram: Subtypes 

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WEBSITE / ARTICLE: The Good Trade

Self-Care Practices You Can Do at Home, Based on Your Enneagram Type

WEBSITE: The Enneagram Institute

WEBSITE: The Narrative Enneagram

WEBSITE: The Living Enneagram

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VIDEO (YouTube): Carolyn Zaikowski

Instinctual Subtypes

Nine Types of Neurosis

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VIDEO (YouTube):

Enneatype, Not the Real You (Conscious Life)

Nature & Nurture (Nahid Coaching)

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BOOK: Personality Types. By Riso & Hudson

BOOK: The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram. By Sandra Maitri