THE GUIDE
1. IDENTITY
MAIN ESSAY
RIPPLE EFFECT
HEALTHY M.O.
THE PROCESS
SHIFT GEARS
On my life’s journey so far, I’ve come to believe that as human beings, we are a process, not fixed entities, and that our sense of identity changes based on our experiences, viewpoints, and perceived (or inherited) wants and needs.
But what if we achieve a socially validated place in life that meets our set goals and desires and yet we feel more empty than ever… where approval from others seems hollow and we ourselves feel devoid of meaning? That is, if we stop distracting ourselves enough to actually feel ~
If we take the path of denial of our inner reality, our outer one may become increasingly filled with conflict, pain, and mishaps until we can no longer ignore the Call from within ~ the call for self-connection.
It's my view that we all need love, connection and belonging. And most of us (in order to survive in a maladapted world) have disowned, lost, or been forced to let go of parts of ourselves in order to gain conditional approval from the social sphere (family, peers, public), unconsciously betraying ourselves.
As children, being caught in the inherited cycle of such seeking wasn't our fault. But over time, being out of self-alignment can cause our sense of the world to get smaller, tighter, drier, where we’re more likely to perpetuate the very thing we need to release.
Competing for power and control as we frantically try to alter our outer circumstances (or giving up our power completely to allow others to lead our lives for us) can cause us to relive our pain through different settings, players and costumes.
I propose that in order to change our lives and recover our lost parts, we try turning in and healing the connection with ourselves as the first step toward the love and belonging we seek.
VIDEO (YouTube):
Curt Cobain on Identity (Blank on Blank)
Superman's True Identity (Nerdwriter1)
Against Personal Identity (Crash Course)
If You’re an Introvert (Jay Shetty)
Introverts and Extroverts (Teal Swan)
The Power of Introverts – S. Cain (TED)
Psychology of Your Future Self (TED)
DOCUMENTARY (YouTube) – Trailer
Three Identical Strangers (Tim Wardle)
Far From The Tree (Dretzin & Ephron)
The Illusionists (Elena Rossini)
1. IDENTITY & PERSONALITY
Essay by Katarzyna Vedah. March 3, 2018
RIPPLE EFFECT
CREATIVE INSPIRATIONS TO ENGAGE THE CAPACITY TO FEEL
WELCOME TO YOUR IDENTITY CRISIS
FILM (YouTube): Trailer
Austenland (Hess & Hess)
Yentl (Barbra Streisand)
Maïna (Michel Poulette)
Locke (Steven Knight)
TV SERIES: Unorthodox
TV SERIES: Living with Yourself
TV SERIES: United States of Tara
HUMOUR / VIDEO: Frank James
16 Personalities Describing Themselves
VIDEO (Vimeo): KIN FABLES Trilogy
I - Kin
II - Salvage
III - Requiem
MUSIC:
Kin Fables Album - CLANN (Bandcamp)
VIDEO (YouTube):
Frida Gets Personal (Nerdwriter1)
Identity Crisis (Like Stories of Old)
Hello Destroyer (Breakfast Television)
Tegan & Sara, Coming Out (q on CBC)
HEALTHY M.O.
HEALTHY MENTAL OUTLOOK & PSYCHOLOGICAL SUPPORT
HOW SOCIALIZATION AFFECTS
PERSONALITY
VIDEO (YouTube):
Measuring Personality (Crash Course)
Myers-Briggs Explained (Frank James)
Don’t Let Your Children… (Frank James)
Personality Hacker (Personality Hacker)
WEBSITE: 16 Personalities
WEBSITE: Personality Hacker
VIDEO (YouTube):
How to Know Yourself (School of Life)
True & False Self (School of Life)
Social Development (Crash Course)
Socialization (Crash Course)
VIDEO (YouTube): Teal Swan
Fragmentation (Worldwide Disease)
VIDEO (YouTube):
Dissociative Identity Disorder (MedCircle)
Personality Disorders (Crash Course)
Psychology of Narcissism (TED-Ed)
Origins of Narcissism (Vital Mind Psych)
Misunderstood Personalities (MedCircle)
Character Disturbance (George Simon)
BOOK: Character Disturbance. George Simon
THE PROCESS
PRACTICAL REINFORCEMENT FOR SELF-CARE & DAY-TO-DAY LIVING
IDENTITY-BASED HABITS TO CREATE A NEW LIFE
WEB / ARTICLE: Soul Salt
Defining Your List of Values and Beliefs
WEB / ARTICLE: The Atlantic
Clocklike Regularity of Major Life Changes
VIDEO (YouTube):
Psychological Rebirth (Academy of Ideas)
Call your Life into Question (Teal Swan)
The Inner Work Journey (Jordan Thornton)
PODCAST (YouTube): Sounds True
Wanting to Find Expression Through You
VIDEO (YouTube): Ancestral Medicine
Embracing Change & Transformation
VIDEO (YouTube):
Change Your Life (Kurzgesagt)
Habits Form Your Identity (London Real)
Atomic Habits (Escaping Ordinary)
You're Not Lazy (Elizabeth Filips)
Re-Discover Your Passion (Brendon.com)
Recreate Your Identity (Valuetainment)
Find a Purpose (Academy of Ideas)
VIDEO (YouTube): Mindvalley
Designing Your Life with Lifebook
SHIFT GEARS
EXPANDING PERSPECTIVES, AWARENESS & CONSCIOUSNESS
WHAT IS YOUR ENNEAGRAM TYPE?
VIDEO (YouTube): Abbey Howe
VIDEO (YouTube): Frank James
VIDEO (YouTube): Ian Morgan Cron
WEBSITE / ARTICLE: The Good Trade
Self-Care Practices You Can Do at Home, Based on Your Enneagram Type
WEBSITE: The Enneagram Institute
WEBSITE: The Narrative Enneagram
WEBSITE: The Living Enneagram
VIDEO (YouTube): Carolyn Zaikowski
VIDEO (YouTube):
Not the Real You (Conscious Life)
Nature & Nurture (Nahid Coaching)
BOOK: Personality Types. Riso & Hudson
BOOK: The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram. By Sandra Maitri