THE GUIDE
PART I: SELF CONNECTION
MAIN ESSAY
RIPPLE EFFECT
HEALTHY M.O.
THE PROCESS
SHIFT GEARS
On my life’s journey so far, I’ve come to believe that as human beings, we are a process, not fixed entities, and that our sense of identity changes based on our experiences, viewpoints, and perceived (or inherited) wants and needs.
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But what if we achieve a socially validated place in life that meets our set goals and desires and yet we feel more empty than ever… where approval from others seems hollow and we ourselves feel devoid of meaning? That is, if we stop distracting ourselves enough to actually feel ~
If we take the path of denial of our inner reality, our outer one may become increasingly filled with conflict, pain, and mishaps until we can no longer ignore the Call from within ~ the call for self-connection.
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It's my view that we all need love, connection and belonging. And most of us (in order to survive in a maladapted world) have disowned, lost, or been forced to let go of parts of ourselves in order to gain conditional approval from the social sphere (family, peers, public), unconsciously betraying ourselves.
As children, being caught in the inherited cycle of such seeking wasn't our fault. But over time, being out of self-alignment can cause our sense of the world to get smaller, tighter, drier, where we’re more likely to perpetuate the very thing we need to release.
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Competing for power and control as we frantically try to alter our outer circumstances (or giving up our power completely to allow others to lead our lives for us) can cause us to relive our pain through different settings, players and costumes.
I propose that in order to change our lives and recover our lost parts, we try turning in and healing the connection with ourselves as the first step toward the love and belonging we seek.
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VIDEO (YouTube):
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Curt Cobain on Identity (Blank on Blank)
Against Personal Identity (Crash Course)
If You’re an Introvert (Jay Shetty)
Introverts and Extroverts (Teal Swan)
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The Power of Introverts – S. Cain (TED)
Psychology of Your Future Self (TED)
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DOCUMENTARY (YouTube) – Trailer
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Three Identical Strangers (Tim Wardle)
Far From The Tree (Dretzin & Ephron)
1. IDENTITY & PERSONALITY
Essay by Katarzyna Vedah. March 3, 2018
RIPPLE EFFECT
CREATIVE INSPIRATIONS TO ENGAGE THE CAPACITY TO FEEL
WELCOME TO YOUR IDENTITY CRISIS
FILM (YouTube): Trailer
TV SERIES (YouTube): Netflix
MUSIC / VIDEO (YouTube):
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MUSIC / INTERVIEW (YouTube):
Tegan & Sara, Coming Out (q on CBC)
VIDEO (Vimeo): KIN FABLES Trilogy
Part I - Kin
Part II - Salvage
Part III - Requiem
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WEBSITE: Kin Fables
MUSIC / SOUND (Bandcamp):
HUMOUR / VIDEO (YouTube): Frank James
16 Personalities Describing Themselves
HEALTHY M.O.
HEALTHY MENTAL OUTLOOK & PSYCHOLOGICAL SUPPORT
HOW SOCIALIZATION AFFECTS
PERSONALITY
VIDEO (YouTube):
Measuring Personality (Crash Course)
Myers-Briggs Explained (Frank James)
Don’t Let Your Children… (Frank James)
WEBSITE: 16 Personalities
BOOK: Personality Isn’t Permanent
By Benjamin Hardy.
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VIDEO (YouTube):
How to Know Yourself (School of Life)
True & False Self (School of Life)
False Self vs Real Self (Teal Swan)
Your Personality is Fake (Teal Swan)
VIDEO (YouTube): Crash Course
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VIDEO (YouTube): TED-Ed
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VIDEO (YouTube):
The Childhood Origins of Narcissism
(Vital Mind Psychology)

Misunderstood Personality Disorders
(MedCircle)
THE PROCESS
PRACTICAL REINFORCEMENT FOR SELF-CARE & DAY-TO-DAY LIVING
CARE FOR YOUR ENNEAGRAM TYPE
VIDEO (YouTube): Abbey Howe
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VIDEO (YouTube): Frank James
VIDEO (YouTube): Ian Morgan Cron
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WEBSITE / ARTICLE: The Good Trade
Self-Care Practices You Can Do at Home, Based on Your Enneagram Type
WEBSITE: The Enneagram Institute
WEBSITE: The Narrative Enneagram
WEBSITE: The Living Enneagram
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VIDEO (YouTube): Carolyn Zaikowski
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VIDEO (YouTube):
Enneatype, Not the Real You (Conscious Life)
Nature & Nurture (Nahid Coaching)
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BOOK: Personality Types. By Riso & Hudson
BOOK: The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram. By Sandra Maitri
SHIFT GEARS
EXPANDING PERSPECTIVES, AWARENESS & CONSCIOUSNESS

REDISCOVER
YOUR PURPOSE
WEB / ARTICLE: By Thomas Oppong
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Start Doing These Things for Yourself to Transform Your Life in Less Than a Year.
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The Dangerous Approach of Living Without Purpose.
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VIDEO (YouTube):
Re-Discover Your Passion (Brendon.com)
Recreate Your Identity (Valuetainment)
Starting Over, ReBuild (The Futur)
WEB / ARTICLE: By Arthur C. Brooks
How to Build a Life: The Clockwork Regularity of Major Life Changes
VIDEO (YouTube): Teal Swan
Things that Call your Life into Question
Find Your Imprint, Find Your Life Purpose
VIDEO (YouTube): Dr. Allan Hunter
Archetypes: Pilgrim & Warrior-Lover
Archetypes: Monarch & Magician
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VIDEO (YouTube): Inspire Nation
The Life You Were Born to Live!
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BOOK: The Hero Within. Carol S. Pearson
The Life You Were Born to Live. Dan Millman
Numerology Has Your Number. Ellin Dodge