On my life’s journey so far, I’ve come to believe that as human beings, we are a process, not fixed entities, and that our sense of identity changes based on our experiences, viewpoints, and perceived (or inherited) wants and needs.

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But what if we achieve a socially validated place in life that meets our  set goals and desires and yet we feel more empty than ever… where approval from others seems hollow and we ourselves feel devoid of meaning? That is, if we stop distracting ourselves enough to actually feel.

If we take the path of denial of our inner reality, our outer one may become increasingly filled with conflict, pain, and mishaps until we can no longer ignore the Call from within ~ the call for self-connection.

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It's my view that we all need love, connection and belonging. And most of us (in order to survive in a maladapted

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world) have disowned, lost, or been forced to let go of parts of ourselves in order to gain conditional approval from the social sphere (family, peers, public), unconsciously betraying ourselves.

As children, being caught in the inherited cycle of such seeking wasn't our fault. But over time, being out of self-alignment can cause our sense of the world to get smaller, tighter, drier, where we’re more likely to perpetuate the very thing we need to release.

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Competing for power and control as we frantically try to alter our outer circumstances (or giving up our power completely to allow others to lead our lives for us) can cause us to relive our pain through different settings, players, and costumes.

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I propose that in order to change our lives and recover our lost parts, we try turning in and healing the connection with ourselves as the first step toward the love and belonging we seek.

When We Center, the World Aligns ~

What do you want to experience, want to feel or embody, and why?

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RESOURCES:

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VIDEO (YouTube):

Curt Cobain on Identity (Blank on Blank)

Against Personal Identity (Crash Course)

Measuring Personality (Crash Course)

If You’re an Introvert (Jay Shetty)

Thrive as an Introvert (Mossy Bottom)

Introverts and Extroverts (Teal Swan)

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Myers-Briggs Explained (Frank James)

Don’t Let Your Children… (Frank James)

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The Power of Introverts – S. Cain (TED)

Psychology of Your Future Self (TED)

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WEBSITE: 16 Personalities

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BOOK: By Benjamin Hardy

Personality Isn’t Permanent

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DOCUMENTARY (YouTube) – Trailer

Three Identical Strangers (Tim Wardle)

Far From The Tree (Dretzin & Ephron)

IDENTITY CRISIS

FILM (YouTube): Trailer

Labyrinth

Locke

Captain Fantastic

TV SERIES (YouTube): Netflix

Living with Yourself

Unorthodox

MUSIC / VIDEO (YouTube):

Halfway to Nowhere - Chelou

Wide Awake – Katy Perry

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MUSIC / INTERVIEW (YouTube):

Tegan & Sara on Coming Out (q on CBC)

VIDEO (Vimeo): KIN FABLES Trilogy
Part I - Kin
Part II - Salvage
Part III - Requiem

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WEBSITE: Kin Fables

MUSIC / SOUND (Bandcamp):

Kin Fables Album - CLANN​

VIDEO (YouTube): Frank James

Introverts Socializing

Struggles Only Introverts Understand

Enneagram Types as New Dads

16 Personalities Describing Themselves

SOCIALIZATION & 

SELF REGARD

VIDEO (YouTube): School of Life

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How to Learn to Love Oneself More

How to be a Friend to Yourself

Self-Compassion Exercise

Our Past Influences our Present

How to Know Yourself

True & False Self

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VIDEO (YouTube): Teal Swan

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False Self vs Real Self

Your Personality is Fake

Meet Your Needs

VIDEO (YouTube): Crash Course

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Social Development

Socialization

Personality Disorders

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VIDEO (YouTube):

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Psychology of Narcissism (TED-Ed)


Personality Disorders Mental Illness?

(Tracey Marks)

The Childhood Origins of Narcissism

(Vital Mind Psychology)


Misunderstood Personality Disorders

(MedCircle)

THE

ENNEAGRAM

TYPES

VIDEO (YouTube): Abbey Howe

What is the Enneagram?

Enneagram Coping Style

VIDEO (YouTube): Frank James

Intro to the Enneagram

WINGS in the Enneagram

VIDEO (YouTube): Ian Morgan Cron

The Enneagram: Instincts

The Enneagram: Subtypes 

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WEBSITE / ARTICLE: The Good Trade

Self-Care Practices You Can Do at Home, Based on Your Enneagram Type

WEBSITE: The Enneagram Institute

WEBSITE: The Narrative Enneagram

WEBSITE: The Living Enneagram

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VIDEO (YouTube): Carolyn Zaikowski

Instinctual Subtypes

Nine Types of Neurosis

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VIDEO (YouTube):

Enneatype, Not the Real You (Conscious Life)

Nature & Nurture (Nahid Coaching)

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BOOK: Personality Types. By Riso & Hudson

BOOK: The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram. By Sandra Maitri