In the Eastern esoteric tradition, the Sacral Chakra is the energy center around the pelvis where we move past sheer survival mode to explore our capacity for self-expression and connection through our emotions, relationships, sensual and sexual being, as well as through our sense of pleasure, abundance and creativity. Such self-expression can be fluid, embodied and empowered.
But the Sacral Chakra can easily be one of the most wounded within us, destabilized by experiences like emotional abuse, sexual shaming and violence, birth trauma, infant circumcision and other invasive medical procedures.
Such primal boundary violations to our most intimate parts can create a split in our lives that recycles our pain in the form of dysfunctional relationships, addictions, and polarizing dynamics such as the extremes of lack and excess.
In society, such splitting can be seen in the excess of consumerism, hyper-sexualized expressions in the media and advertising, and the reinforcement of gender posturing, expectations and stereotypes.
5. SEX, GENDER & SHAME
Essay by Katarzyna Vedah. July 7, 2018
On the other side of the coin is sexual shaming, online harassment, public humiliation and other forms of individual and collective predation.
In terms of gender identity, sexual expression and intimate relationships, our wounds can run very deep. When we are consumed by our own personal pain, it can be easy to dismiss that of others, or to get stuck in blame, anger, deflection and aggressive self-defense.
By getting caught up in a Power-Over / Power-Under model of response, we may subconsciously re-enact our original trauma, and neither approach addresses the real issue.
Healing our personal sacral wounds can mean listening to ourselves, learning to grieve what we’ve lost, acknowledging unmet needs and reclaiming our right to our bodies, emotional expression, and sensual / sexual being. And healing the collective wound can mean coming to meet with the intention of hearing one another with an open heart and mind.
Whether we identify as male, female, gender neutral, or other, our lives are inter-connected and so is our pain.
To release the split thinking of Us vs Them means being open to the possibility that our lives are creative expressions of experience on a spectrum (not binary extremes). Let’s end the cycle of giving and receiving pain in our relationships and acknowledge that we need each other in this healing process.
VIDEO (YouTube): School of Life
Coleman on Rape Culture (Teen Vogue)
The Secret of Sexism (Nerdwriter1)
Man Enough - J. Baldoni (TED)
DOCUMENTARY: Trigger Warning!
The Mask You Live In (J. S. Newsom)
The Red Pill (Cassie Jaye)
CREATIVE INSPIRATIONS TO ENGAGE THE CAPACITY TO FEEL
VIDEO (YouTube): Pop Culture Detective
HUMOR / VIDEO: College Humor
MUSIC / VIDEO (YouTube):
FILM (YouTube): Trailer
Orlando (Sally Potter)
Hysteria (Tanya Wexler)
Battle of the Sexes (Faris & Dayton)
I am Not an Easy Man (Eléonore Pourriat)
Moonlight (Barry Jenkins)
FILM CLIP (YouTube):
ARTIST / VIDEO (YouTube):
WEBSITE: Tara McPherson
WEBSITE: Robert Longo
HEALTHY MENTAL OUTLOOK & PSYCHOLOGICAL SUPPORT
GENDER ROLES & STEREOTYPES
Gender Roles In Adult Life (BuzzFeed)
Gendered Marketing (The Checkout)
Gender Stratification (Crash Course)
Origin of Gender (Origin of Everything)
Cross-Dressing (Origin of Everything)
Gender Identity & Fluidity (BBC World)
Sex & Sexuality (Crash Course)
More than 2 Sexes (SciShow)
Growing Up Intersex (OWN)
DOCUMENTARY (Vimeo): Trigger Warning!
Liberated (Benjamin Nolot)
VIDEO (YouTube): Teal Swan
The Man-Child (Academy of Ideas)
The Wounded Masculine (Aaron Abke)
WEBSITE: ManKind Project
BOOK: To Be a Man. Robert Masters
PRACTICAL REINFORCEMENT FOR SELF-CARE & DAY-TO-DAY LIVING
HEALING COVERT EMOTIONAL INCEST & SEXUAL TRAUMA
VIDEO (YouTube): Adena Bank Lees
WEBSITE: Adena Bank Lees
WEB / ARTICLES:
The Quiet Wound. By Paul Dunion.
Trauma of Male Circumcision - PACE Hearing
WEB / ARTICLE: RAINN
VIDEO (YouTube): Peter A. Levine
AUDIO PROGRAM: Sounds True
EXPANDING PERSPECTIVES, AWARENESS & CONSCIOUSNESS
OVERCOMING SEXUAL SHAME & PORN ADDICTION*
WEBSITE: Fight the New Drug
WEBSITE: Fortify – Quit Porn for Good
WEBSITE: Dr. Patrick Carnes
BOOK: Out of the Shadows. Patrick Carnes
VIDEOS (YouTube): Teal Swan
Heal Sexual Energy (Christina Lopes)
Deal with Guilt & Shame (Christina Lopes)
Porn Affects Your Energy (Mayara Healing)
* Mature Content
VIDEO (YouTube): TED Talk
Shame, Sex & Silence - F. Harper
Sex, Shame, Manifestation - A. Thurston
WEB / ARTICLE: By Matt Morrissey
Porn Addiction (Chris Williamson)
Cause of Porn Addiction (GoldJacketLuke)
Overcoming Porn (Man Talks)
DOCU-SERIES: Brain, Heart, World